Here are some interesting questions you might
want to try answering. One: If you could
completely change places with any other person
in the world, would you do it? And who would
that person be? Two: If you could work at any
job you could choose, would that work be
different from the work you're doing now? Three:
If you could live in any part of the country you
want to live in, would you move from where you
are now living? Four: If you could go back to
age 12 and live your life from that point over
again, would you do it?
Studies indicate that
the great majority of people, even though they
have a certain amount of dissatisfaction with
their present lives and don't seem to be as
happy as they might be, will answer "no" to all
four questions. A person often feels when he's
accomplished everything he's worked and
struggled for so long to achieve, he finds
himself depressed more and more of the time. He
has a fine job and an excellent income, a
beautiful home, a wonderful spouse and children.
In fact, everything is finally just as he'd
planned it for so many years. And for no reason
that he can put his finger on, all the fun and
enthusiasm has strongly disappeared. He's
listless and unhappy, and he can't think of a
single reason why.
This has become a common modern malady,
especially in retirement, and it's what so often
happens when a person runs out of goals. This is
when the game of life begins to go to pot, and
the person needs to remind himself of the basic
rules for successful, enthusiastic living. And
the first rule is that a human being must have
something worthwhile toward which he's working.
Without that, everything else, even the most
remarkable achievements of the past and all the
trappings of worldly success tend to turn sour.
Achieving our life goals can be compared to
opening our presents on Christmas morning and
watching those we love open theirs. We look
forward to the day, plan, and work toward it.
Suddenly it is there and all of the presents
have been opened, and then what?
Well, we must then turn our thoughts and
attention to other things. The successful
novelist begins planning his next book before he
completes the one he's working on. The scientist
always has something new and challenging to turn
to when he completes a project. The teacher has
a new class coming up. The young family has
children to raise and get through school, the
new home to buy, the promotion to work for.
But for millions who reach their 40s and 50s
and find they've done all they set out to do and
that there are no new challenges to give them
stimulus and direction, there often comes the
most trying time of their lives – the search for
meaning, for new meaning, and it must be found
if the old interest and vitality are to be
restored to their lives, if they're to achieve
renewal as persons.
If you understand this, even the search for
new meaning can bring new interest into your
life. You've got to say to yourself, "All right,
I've done what I've set out to do. Now I must
find something new and interesting to do."