I am a firm believer that there is no
greater self-help or self-exploration
tool than a journal. That's right--a
simple blank book and a pen can help you
manifest millions of dollars. It can
help you identify goals. It can ease
emotional pain or grief. It can
transport you back in time. The journal
is a physical manifestation of the
contents within your own mind and heart.
In this article, I am going to list some
basic techniques and guidelines to
follow when journaling.
Your life is special and worth
recording. I firmly believe that all
human life is special and purposeful.
You and I were placed on this world for
a reason and we have a limited time on
this world to establish our legacy. Some
very famous people in history have the
benefit of having others essentially
journal for them in chronicles,
biographies, and other materials that
record their life, but the best and most
accurate record of who you are now and
who you will be remembered as after you
leave this world will be through the
journals that you write.
Write only for yourself. A client of
mine once asked me if it was okay to
journal on an internet blog for everyone
to read. She said that all of her
friends had created blogs and that it
seemed like a fun thing to do. I told
her that there is nothing wrong with
blogging, but for the purposes of life
journaling, you should keep your journal
private and write strictly for yourself.
This is because we write differently
when we know that our writing will be
read by other people. We have what is
known as an internal editor inside our
minds who edits what we write and it's
this internal editor who prevents us
from genuinely writing from the heart.
So while I think blogs are fun and great
to share with others, a life journal
needs to be written with a one-person
audience in mind--you. Now this is not
to say that you can't ever share your
journal with anyone. I have often shared
my journal entries with the people who
are special in my life, but there is a
difference between sharing an entry
later on and writing that entry for
yourself in mind.
Human memory is fallible so write it
down. Our organic memory is not as sharp
as one would think. Over time, our
memories of certain events either get
washed away or become tainted with our
retrospective and emotional views of
that event. Journaling is like taking a
snapshot photo of our mind and emotions
during that event. It allows our memory
to remain true as to the events of our
past and by reading those entries
months, even years later, catapults us
back to that moment in time and allows
us to remember it with much greater
detail and accuracy than if we relied on
memory alone.
Select a physical journal, not a
computer. Although many people in this
day and age are much more accustom to
typing rather than handwriting, I argue
that for the purposes of journaling,
there is a big difference. In my
workshops, I advocate the use of a
physical journal you can hold in your
hand because you can always take it with
you wherever you go. I myself have some
great adventures all over the world and
often I go weeks without any access to
electricity. Having a journal and a pen
in my backpack as I explore the Amazon
of Brazil or trek the desert plains of
Australia is lightweight and always
available to jot down notes.
Invest in a quality journal. Your
journal is the most important book you
will ever own. The thoughts and ideas
and emotions that are contained within
its pages are more precious than
anything you possess because it becomes
a part of you. Therefore I suggest
investing in a journal that is
representative of those special thoughts
and ideas. Personally, I choose a
handmade leather journal for all my life
journaling not only because it is highly
rugged and durable, but also because it
looks nice and will remain that way far
after I am gone. Investing some money
into a good journal that you like will
also be an incentive for you to actually
follow through with consistent
journaling practices.
-10 to +10. One thing that I do
different in my journaling practices and
what I suggest you do also is give
yourself a pain - pleasure ranking next
to the date that you write your entry.
On a scale of -10 (most painful) to +10
(most pleasurable), rate yourself on how
you feel at that particular time. Do
this for two reasons. One, it is good
for you to know exactly how you are
feeling each day and to quantify that
experience with a numerical value. Two,
you can go back and review how you felt
on a given day and you can thumb through
your entries and see if there exists a
pattern of low feelings or high feelings
and what the cause of those feelings
were.
Self-probing questions. When people
think of journaling, they think of
simply logging the day's events on
paper. This is far from true with my
journaling techniques. Of course, I do
recommend regular event recording, but I
also advocate interweaving what I call
self-probing questions along with those
other journal entries. Self-probing
questions are questions you ask yourself
and from which you brainstorm your own
answers to. It's a way of reaching deep
within your mind and your heart to
retrieve answers that may not have
surfaced to your conscious mind.
Self-probing questions help you bring
clarity to issues in your life that need
to be solidified in your mind. For
example, in one such entry of mine, I
asked myself the question of what
exactly are my dreams in life? What did
I want to accomplish, see, or do in my
life before I die? I brainstormed and
wrote down every answer without
evaluating or judging those answers and
let me tell you, I came up with goals
that I never even realized I had, but
made sense to me after I realized that I
did in fact have such goals in the back
of my mind. Each week ask yourself an
intuitive question and brainstorm
answers on paper without evaluating
them....just write them down. You might
be surprised at how powerful this
technique is.
About the Author: Tristan Loo
is the Founder of the Synergy Institute,
a Personal Development Firm based out of
San Diego. Tristan is a former police
officer, personal development coach,
conflict negotiator, and author.
Visit the Synergy Institute Website